Lesson for May 09, 2021

Mother’s Day

A Godly Mother

Proverbs 31:10-12, 28-29, “An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life. Her children rise up and bless her;her husband also, and he praises her, saying: ‘Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all.’”

The Word of God has a lot to say about women, especially mothers. Contrary to popular belief, the Bible reveres women and God honors motherhood. The importance of being a godly woman and mother cannot be overemphasized. A godly woman or mother is one who is advancing in the spiritual life. As a godly mother advances through the various stages of spiritual adulthood, she is preparing herself for one of the most important roles God has assigned to a believer.

A mother is given the duty of not only bearing the child but also nurturing and teaching the child. It’s a big job and one that is to be respected. The objective of raising children is to prepare them for adulthood – not always an easy task. For the godly mother, the objectives are numerous. One objective is to teach their children to love God, love their family and love others. They are also tasked with training the child in all areas of family life and social life. The influence of a mother on a child cannot be overstated. While fulfilling this role, a mother is also asked to be the supportive partner of her husband and perform many other more mundane jobs within the family unit. Motherhood is a huge job, but when done in accordance with the principles of the Word of God is one of the most (if not the most) rewarding jobs on earth.

Proverbs 31 is the advice of a mother to her son about finding the right woman. Proverbs 31 is also, and most importantly, the inspired Word of God. So, here are the characteristics of a godly woman and mother according to Proverbs 31. Please keep in mind that these were general characteristics given to King Lemuel, who many believe was another name for King Solomon who wrote Proverbs. This passage sets up a standard that few women, if any, could achieve. That being said, the principles of these characteristics should reside in every Christian woman.

Here are the characteristics of a godly woman as they relate to us today in Proverbs 31

1. Virtue (verse10) An excellent woman [one who is spiritual, capable, intelligent, and virtuous], who is he who can find her?– the Hebrew word for excellent is “chayil,” which means virtuous, substance, valor and worthy. It is a word that refers to the spiritual life of the ideal woman. A woman who is living her life as unto the Lord by growing spiritually and being consistent in her application of Bible doctrine is a rare find and one to be treasured. When a man finds such a woman, he is able to place his full confidence in her with regard to her decisions for him and her family. The result is that he will be rewarded by her worthiness. Virtue is developed by the consistent study and application of Bible doctrine.
2. Supportive Marriage Partner (verse 12) She comforts, encourages, and does him only good and not evil all the days of her life – this refers to the role of the woman within the family unit as the supportive partner of the husband. God has assigned certain roles within the marriage. The husband is assigned the role of leadership and the wife a support role. This in no way diminishes the importance of the role of the wife in marriage. The Bible tells us to be subject one to another which indicates a partnership with each partner fulfilling their specific role as God has assigned them. An extremely important part of the wife’s role is that of mother.
3. Homemaker (verse 13) She looks for wool and flax and works with willing hands in delight – this is a reference to the industrious nature of a godly wife and mother. A godly wife and mother always works hard to provide the necessities of life for her family. She provides food and clothing for her family. She even plants a garden for growing food items, if necessary.
4. Industrious (16) She considers a field before she buys or accepts it [expanding her business prudently]; with her profits she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard – she has a business sense and makes good decisions with regard to buying and spending. She recognizes that what she has been given is from the Lord and she is a good steward of God’s provisions. She is also an investor of her time and money to make the most of what she has been given.
5. Charitable (19) She opens and extends her hand to the poor, and she reaches out her filled hands to the needy – she is not greedy but shares the bounty that she has with others less fortunate. She understands the doctrinal principle of “give and it shall be given to you.” She not only extends her hand to the poor with food, she also gives of her time. She cares for others.
6. Creative (21) She does not fear the snow for her household, for all in her household are clothed in [expensive] scarlet [wool]. She makes for herself coverlets, cushions, and rugs of tapestry. Her clothing is linen, pure and fine, and purple [wool]. Her husband is known in the [city’s] gates, when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes [fine] linen garments and sells them; and supplies sashes to the merchants – she has trained herself in the art of making clothing, rugs, cushions, etc. so that her family will be warm in the winter. She makes sure that her husband has the best clothing so that he is known by city elders. And with what is left over, she makes into products that she can sell to the local merchants.
7. Wisdom (25) Strength and dignity are her clothing, and her position is strong and secure; and she smiles at the future [knowing that she and her family are prepared]. She opens her mouth in [skillful and godly] wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue [giving counsel and instruction]. She looks well to how things go in her household and does not eat the bread of idleness – the godly mother and wife has the most important type of clothing, spiritual wisdom. She understands Bible doctrine and knows how to apply it. This gives her inner strength and security because her confidence is always in the Lord and she lives her life in light of eternity, which is a personal sense of destiny. When she speaks it is divine viewpoint based on the doctrine in her soul. She speaks the truth in love and is able to teach her children the principles of the Word of God.
8. Admired (28-29) Her children rise up and call her blessed (happy, prosperous, to be admired); Her husband also, and he praises her, saying, “Many daughters have done nobly, and well [with the strength of character that is steadfast in goodness], but you excel them all” – she is the ideal wife and mother because she has her priorities straight. Her love for God influences her decisions and actions bringing the praise of everyone, but especially her family. Her children praise her and call her blessed. Her husband also praises her and places her above all other wives and mothers.
9. Inner Beauty (30) Charm and grace are deceptive, and [superficial] beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord[reverently worshiping, obeying, serving, and trusting Him with awe-filled respect], she shall be praised. Give her of the product of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates [of the city] – her real beauty is internal, invisible. She is an invisible hero having advanced in her spiritual life to spiritual maturity. Her relationship with God has advanced to the point of reverential trust in God and all that He has provided for her. She demonstrates her inner beauty by her overt attitudes and actions and is praised for it.

A wonderful example of motherhood in the Bible is Mary, the mother of Jesus. God prepared a young woman to be the mother of the humanity of Christ, Mary. Mary was a young, wonderful Jewish believer and especially chosen by God to give birth to the Messiah. Mary was the mother of the humanity of Christ, not the “Mother of God.” We can learn some things about Mary from several statements that were made about her and several statements that she made. 

In Luke 1:28, the angel said that Mary was “highly favored,” “the Lord was with her” and that she was “blessed among women.” In Luke 1:38, Mary confirmed her obedient attitude toward the Lord. Mary was a faithful believer who knew and quoted from I Samuel 2 and Psalm 34 according to Luke 1:46-56 and she magnified the Lord. In Luke 2:19, Mary kept all these things within her regarding the birth of the Savior and pondered them in her heart, which means she was concentrating on the Word of God. (Luke 2:19)

We know that Mary (and Joseph) saw to it that Jesus was trained in the Scriptures from the episode of Jesus in the Temple confounding the Jewish scholars. (Luke 2:41-52) We continue to see Mary throughout the life of Jesus. She was in at the Cross when Jesus was crucified, at the empty tomb of Jesus, in the upper room with the 120 disciples awaiting the coming of the Holy Spirit. (John 19:25-27; Luke 24:10; Acts 1:14) This magnificent mother never abandoned her child, she stayed with Him until the end and was rewarded greatly when He returned from the grave.

Mary was not sinless, not perfect, but she was faithful to God and to her children and sets a beautiful example for any woman to aspire to while on this earth.